Fix a Sexless Marriage

 

​​You never learned about Female Desire, until now. 

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I'll give you a preview of the eBook to give you an idea what to expect.

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The Background

 

​What I'm about to share with you has been well-documented amongst evolutionary psychologists and biologists for many years with books such as Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating by Dr. David Buss, and Sperm Wars by Robin Baker.

 

​Too much comfort, loyalty, predictability, and support kill your wife's sexual desire. 

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Yes, you read that correctly.

 

99% of Sexless marriages are the result of the wife losing attraction for her husband.

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It has nothing to do with the wife being "low libido" or how you need to communicate more or any of the other bullshit excuses you hear, but everything to do with the Great Paradox in Female Sexuality and Biology.

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​​The Great Paradox

 

There's an ugly paradox at play in human nature. For women, security of modern-day marriage often kills the passion that thrives on mystery and distance.

 

Throughout history, women were programmed to find certain male behaviors attractive, but modern-day marriage and life in general, have the complete opposite affect. 

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Let's explore this in more detail:

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Cavemen are Sexy

 

Throughout history, consider for second what the typical woman would find attractive about a man?

 

I'm not talking about 2026 or even in the modern era.  I'm referring to the Paleolithic Era, which lasted over a hundred thousand years, let's call this time "Caveman Days". 

 

Modern day is just a blip in time, a fart in the wind, compared to entire human history timeframe.

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​What type of man do you think a woman would have latched herself to?

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Since her (and her offspring) very survival depended on it, of course it would be a male who was dominate, who could lead, hunt, fish, build, provide shelter and precious protein, and who could fight off other males or evading tribes.

 

She needed someone who can protect her and defend her from threats (lions, bears, other males).

 

These types of men had what evolutionary biologists call "Alpha Traits". 

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Back in Caveman Days, a woman who didn't attach themselves to a strong Alpha Male who had these traits was at risk of being killed.

 

​Women would seek out Alpha males to mate with because they provided the best genes. 

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These Alpha traits are called Survival and Replication (S&R) traits. 

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The "Bad Boy"

 

This explains why some women love dating the "Bad Boy" who treats her like crap.

 

He tends to be cocky, overly confident, fun, unpredictable, exciting, and usually dominate- he doesn't ask her opinion or input on anything mainly because he doesn't give a shit what she thinks. 

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Believe it or not, women find Bad Boys very attractive because they closely align with traditional Alpha Male Traits.

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Alpha traits are devoted to physically, assertiveness, leadership, social dominance, healthy genes, raw sexual energy, power and at times even violence.

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Alpha Traits are great for Attraction, but not good for relationship comfort.

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Beta Males Are Not Sexy

 

Beta males, on the opposite spectrum, exhibit what we call "Beta Traits". 

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Beta males are polite, easy going, caring, supportive, predictable, nerdy, and nurturing. 

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They are your boy scout leaders and tend to work in the corporate world.

 

They believe in the "Happy Wife-Happy Life" motto. 

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Beta traits are great for providing relationship comfort, but poor at triggering attraction.

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Alpha doesn't mean "good" and Beta doesn't mean "bad", it just describes two different skill sets. Both are required in marriages but not in a 50/50 ratio.  More like 70/30. 

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You'll learn this in the eBook.

 

The Female Disconnect

 

There's an essential disconnect between what a woman is biologically hardwired to be sexually attracted to and what she needs to feel comforted and supported in modern relationships.

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Women say they want a nice provider who listens and supports her, but when they finally get such a man, they lose attraction for him very quickly.

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Women do not find weak and supplicative men sexy, sorry guys. 

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Especially when she cleans all of your dirty underwear, hears you complaining about your asshole boss, sees you at your lowest, observes your fat gut hanging over your shorts, and witnesses all of your displays of low value around the house- she can't help but lose respect for you. 

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She thought she was marrying Superman but instead got Clark Kent. 

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When she was first dating you, you were probably high on the Alpha Traits and the attraction was high.

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You planned dates, pursued her, perhaps you played in a band or had an interesting hobby. You didn't ask for her opinion and just naturally lead her. 

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You were probably fun to be around and confident. 

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Modern Life kills Female Desire

 

Marriage kills female desire because by design it makes the husband turn into a complete whimp.

 

From all the added responsibility of work and homelife, we turn into a completely different type of man. 

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I did too so don't worry. 

 

Men weren't designed to be working in cubicles or in the office environment, complaining about work, tps reports, or sitting around all day watching TV and picking out paint color.

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Definitely not designed to let the woman run the household and make all the decisions.

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Modern day life takes up all your time too, so you probably stopped all of your hobbies and you might have different interests now or you're just simply exhausted from work and all the responsibilities you now have to do.  

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I understand, there are bills to pay, baby diapers to clean, mortgage payments each month, and your wife doesn't have time to sit around all day you idolize you anymore.

 

She has her own job and responsibilities too that keeps her busy. 

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You're probably out of shape, developed a dad bod, and defer all of the decision-making to your wife because that is what you were "supposed to do". 

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Basically, you went from a high Alpha to now Beta profile.  

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Look, she may appreciate all the supportive things you do for her and the family, such as going to work each day, coming straight home to help out with the kids and cook dinner, but these things only provide Relationship Comfort (Beta). 

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It doesn't trigger sexual attraction (Alpha) and it doesn't make your wife want to have sex with you. 

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Women make rules for Betas but break rules for Alphas. 

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Does She See You as a Beta?

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Is she making you jump through hoops just to have sex with her?

 

You're a Beta.​

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Does she always have an excuse when you iniiate sex?

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You're a Beta.

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Does she constantly nag at you over the little things?

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You're a Beta.

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Remember, there's over a hundred thousand years of evolution at play here.

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Most women do not consciously understand why they act this way; it's just programmed in them to not reward Betas with sex. In Caveman Days, if she got knocked up by a Beta, that was the end of her life!

 

Women reward their Prized Alpha with sex (in order to keep him). She knows that other women will find her Alpha attractive and will try to get with him. 

 

This is another reason women try to control the relationship and beat your confidence down- they try to make you as unattractive as possible so you will not draw the attention of other females who will take away her investment. 

 

Have you ever tried to lose weight or dress better, but your wife keeps sabotaging your efforts? 

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Here, eat this brownie, drink this beer, you don't need new clothes, I love you just the way you are.

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​Why Most Marriages Fail

 

Most marriages fail because the man turned into a Beta whimp. 

 

He allowed his wife, and society, to neuter him.

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He let his wife cut off his balls and put them into her purse.

 

​Your wife might appreciate your Beta comfort building traits, ​but healthy relationships require sexual polarity.

 

There must be a strong dominate man who leads. 

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Your wife can't act feminine because you put her in charge of all the decision making and you put all the responsibility on her shoulders. 

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If there's one thing women do not like, it's responsibility and being held accountable. 

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Women say they want a nice provider who supports and listens to her, but when they finally get such a man, they lose attraction for him over time. 

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The Nice Guy simply cannot provide the excitement that an Alpha can provide.

 

Most women do not understand this themselves. They don't know why they lost the butterflies for husbands.

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What do Women Want?

 

Your wife secretly wants to be dominated and seduced by a higher value man.

 

Why do you think the book 50 Shades of Grey sold over 100 million copies worldwide?

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Is it because it was a beautiful love story? No. 

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Or was it because the male character had all of the Alpha traits that women find sexy and attractive?

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He basically had all the traits a caveman would have.

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He was strong, masculine, dominate, leader, decisive, listened, treated her like a lady, but also fucked the living shit out of her the way he wanted. 

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He never apologized for being a man, he told her what he wanted, he wasn't worried what she thought. 

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Why Women Ping-Pong Between Men

 

The Alpha/Beta trait concept also explains why women can ping-pong from one type of man to the next.

 

If she's dating an asshole Alpha, she will eventually feel starved of emotional support and comfort-that he can't provide- and will want to seek out a Beta who can. 

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But after dating a Beta, she might feel starved of excitement and raw sexual attraction- that he can't provide, so she goes back the asshole dude who can. 

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I know you saw this play out before. 

 

Look at Your Wife's Past Boyfriends

Maybe your wife even dated a complete douche bag before and told you how much of an asshole he was to her.

 

Have you ever wondered what she saw in him?

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Well, he probably had a very high Alpha profile and she was attracted to him as a result. 

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Maybe you were the Beta male that she was looking for to provide her with support, comfort, and predictability that he couldn't give her. 

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It should make you mad that her cocky asshole boyfriend back in the day got to fuck her in the bathroom at the bar, but now she makes you, the person who devoted his life to in marriage, jump through a million hoops just to have a chance to missionary sex at 10pm on a Friday night. 

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Do I have your attention now?

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I know that hurts to hear.

 

Good.

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What is this eBook about?

 

​This entire eBook is all about learning how to emotionally connect and trigger attraction with her!

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Your wife doesn't love you; she only loved how you made her feel in the beginning. 

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Men are the true romantics- we believed in our wedding vows.  

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I hate to tell you this but those were just "words" to your wife. 

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A Healthy Marriage

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A healthy marriage is one where the "man wears the pants" as opposed to "Happy wife happy life".

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Stop making her the Prize, you must become the Prize. 

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Women are biologically programmed to reward their Prize (hopefully you) with sex. 

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Women want to follow a strong masculine leader.

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In order to do that, you must become more Alpha and less Beta.

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Marriage isn't Hard Work

 

​It has nothing to do with her, but everything to do with you. 

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Female nature is a living hell when you don't know how to deal with her emotions or trigger attraction. 

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You'll be fighting an uphill battle the entire time.

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By the end of this eBook, you will have the skills to successfully turn it all around to get the sex life you want and deserve.

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​3 Phase Plan

 

​What we teach is designed in 3 phases. 

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Here's the continuum of a sexual relaitonship:

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Meet--> Attraction-->Comfort-->Seduction

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The problem is that, as a Beta husband, you are stuck in the comfort phase and cannot trigger attraction. 

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It's like trying to start a fire with damp firewood to get her in the mood. 

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It simply won't happen.

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Phase 1: Rebuilding

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Start by cleaning up all the mess you've been neglecting. 

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In the life but also around the house. 

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Clean the garage, clean the gutters, mow the yard, paint the fence, fix the leaky faucet, prganize the bills, make a spreadsheet, etc. 

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Call your parents, friends, neighbors, whomever you've been avoiding. 

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Look at your life, take inventory, look at all of those decisions you haven't made and have been neglecting- do it!

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Take Action. 

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A Strong Alpha Male takes care of his castle. 

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This is all about starting new habits of being assertive and taking care of your shit. 

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Phase 2: Increase Your Sexual Market Value

 

This phase is all about creating leverage and an unbalance of power in your relationship where she must work to keep you happy. 

 

To have a good sex life, you must maintain a higher sexual market value than her.

 

Therefore, you must lose the weight, dress better, clean up, learn to flirt (in this eBook)

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Men age like a fine wine and can become more valuable as they age. It takes time for a man's value to build. 

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Women peak in their early 20s because their market value (their beauty) starts declining. 

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Why do you think most women start using Botox, Ozempic, and all that beauty crap as they turn 40? 

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They're trying to preserve their beauty!

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Their beauty is on the outside while a man's value is on the inside. 

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Men get sexy as they age - assuming you stay lean.   

 

It takes time to earn more money, invest, and grow into a real strong assertive man.

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Men, if you're in your 30s, 40s, or even 50s, you're just getting started!  It's not too late. 

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Getting "friend-zoned" by your wife is the Kiss of Death.

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Look at Sean Connery, Tom Jones, Brad Pitt, even in their old age, women still find them very attractive. 

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Get on a weight loss program, lift weights, lose the dad bod. 

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And no, dad bods are not attractive. It's gross and shows me that you neglected your health too over the years. 

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​Added Benefit

 

There's an added benefit of increasing your sexual market value, not only will you become healthier, but your wife will also find you even more attractive when other women start noticing your newfound confidence, swag, and lean body.

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This is called Preselection- it's well documented phenomenon. You will learn all about this in the book.

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If she sees the "new you", well dressed, confident, leaving the house, do you might think that she will want to protect her investment from other women out there who might find you attractive? Of course she will! 

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As I said earlier, your wife will reward her Prize with sex. So, you must become the Prize. 

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Shit Testing (Fitness Testing 101)

 

Remember we discussed Caveman Days earlier, well this is one way females try to determine if you're an Alpha or Beta.

 

Yes, even your wife of many years still Shit Tests you every day so listen up.

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When she gets pissy for no reason, that's a shit test!   

These are easy wins if you do it correctly. The way to fail her shit test is by defending or rationalizing. 

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For example:  She accuses you of never taking her on vacations (even though you went on an expensive Hawaii Vacation last summer).  By defending and rationalizing with her you fail her test!   This will only make her angrier and irrational. 

 

Remember, by using a Shit Test, she's testing to see if you're a strong Alpha or a weak Beta. 

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The only way to pass the Shit Test is to simply agree and amplify in a cocky and funny way.

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For Example: "You never take me on vacations!", the correct reply is "you're right baby, I reserve those for my girlfriend", You need to wink, smile, and then walk away unaffected.  

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Don't worry about "upsetting mommy" or worry about what she thinks. 

 

Deep down she knows it's irrational.  

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Once again, the right way to respond is to agree in a cocky way and make fun of it.   

 

If you try to use logic by saying, "But baby, we just went on a cruise last summer"- you failed her test.  

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You know it's working if she calls you an asshole or punches you in the arm in a funny way.  

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Phase 3: Developing Your Swag

 

​Cocky funny personality should be your default personality.

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Stop acting so boring and serious around the house. 

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Stop complaining about your asshole boss or work life- act as if you have it all under control (like a real Alpha does).

 

Understand she has responsive desire as opposed to spontaneous desire like a man. Responsive desire is more like a dimmer switch and needs to be amped up over time.

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So you must be flirting with her the moment you wake up in the morning. 

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ABC- Always be Closing!

 

The moment you wake up in the morning you need to be stroking her responsive desire.

 

Grab her ass as you walk by, spin her around, pick her up let her feel your strength.

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Women want a decisive leader. Never say I don't know again. Make decisions. Even little things. 

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We are having baked chicken tonight-you grab the beer and I'll start the pit.

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Women make rules for Betas but break rules for Alphas. 

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Is she making you jump through hoops? You're a beta.

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Don't stop flirting with other women. Practice the skills we give you in the eBook. 

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The more other women find you attractive, the more your wife will too.

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Never open up to your wife about your fears and insecurities, this is a display of low value, and she will lose attraction    towards you. Save that for your bros. 

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Use to play guitar? Dust it off and start playing gain. Worked on bikes? Played a sport? Start a new hobby.

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Stop being so available, get out of the house and do something cool. Give her the gift of missing you. 

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When you feel her pulling away or investing less, start getting out of the house more and flirting with other women. 

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Sometimes she needs to be reminded of your value.

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Don't fall into beta traps where she tries to change anything about you. Hair, dress, friends, etc.

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Dominance is sexy, deferring decision making to her isn't. 

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Use intermittent reinforcement to shape her behavior.

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If she is allowed to talk down to you, she can never be attracted to you. 

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Do you think Brad Pitt get bitched at for stacking the dish washer the wrong way?

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Have a bigger goal than her and make it your first priority- she's just along for the ride.

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Your wife is not your therapist so don't vent about your asshole boss or Jim from accounting from work.

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Be the main actor in your own movie, walk around with a sense of playful arrogance in your house. 

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She is not your mommy, so stop asking for permission. 

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If you're waiting until nighttime to initiate, you're doing it all wrong. 

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Sex first starts in her mind, fuck with her all day long. Sex should be the default by nighttime. 

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Don't expect logic from a woman. Emotion is her map and compress. This is why they love strong masculine men.

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Minimize porn and masturbation, channel it into a sport or hobby. Sex with her is your only release. 

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Expect her to seek out holes in your armor when stirring up drama. Don't fall for the trap. Agree and amplify!

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A woman will behave as only as good as you allow her.

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As the man, it's your job to keep your attraction levels high. 

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Attraction is something you do!

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If she's laughing and punching your arm calling you a jerk, you're doing it right!

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Relationships are not equal. The man has to lead, and the women has to follow.

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If you're currently in a sexless marriage, it will take time to claw yourself up from it. You have no track record of being a       strong masculine leader. Expect 2 months for every year you were married to turn it around. 

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Pay attention to your scarcity- being too available will cause her to lose attraction. 

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Playfully teasing her is your new way of life. Don't overdo it. It should be like breathing. 

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She will only fuck you if your value is higher than hers. She needs to think you're better than she is.

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If you're not spiking her emotions with teasing and bantering, she will not feel a connection. Cue the "we never talk " speech.

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Women are born with inherent value - their beauty. Men must work their entire lives to build value. Have you built your value yet?

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If you want that sexy submissiveness from her, you must maintain masculine dominance at all times. Powerful men get great blow jobs. Betas do not

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Value is realized when it is scarce. Your wife must be reminded of your value.

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Women live in an emotional world, so learn the techniques they will understand.

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You must provide comfort and support at least 30% of the time. 

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Randomly give her a nice strong hug once in a while. Then walk away. Don't say anything.​

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When you increase your market value, you will start pulling the attentions from other women. 

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​Over the long term, she should be investing into the relationship more than you. 

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Alpha behaviors create Attraction and short circuit her logical mind and speak directly to her emotional mind.

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She should never completely feel that she "has" you. 

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Learn what to do about this int he eBook!

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Once you become a better man, you can skip the flowers and date nights and go straight to sex since you have built-in attraction. 

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To get treated like a King, you must first act like a King.

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Your wife needs to understand there is a strong alpha male in the house who wants to fuck, regularly. 

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Start treating her like a bratty little sister but in a playful tone. Pull her hair, snap her bra, pinch her ass.

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If she is acting kind, sweet, and sexually available, reward her. 

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​​The Time is Now​​

 

I'm sorry, it's just the way it is.

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Men are the true romantics, not women. 

 

Don't wish it were different, wish you had the skills. 

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This eBook will give you actionable steps that you can learn and incorporate today.

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For 2026 summertime only, you will receive a Free 30-minute coaching call with your order. 

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You have 2 options:

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1) Keep doing what you're doing and see if things change, or

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2) Learn something new, apply the skills today, and watch as your life drastically changes!

 

What are you waiting for?